Week 5 Dating and Marriage

· At what age do you want to get married? At what age did you get married?

· Describe a perfect date.

· Describe the appearance of the person you would like to date?

· Describe the character of the person you would like to date?

· Do women usually work after getting married in your country?

· Do you “go Dutch” when dating?

· Do you know what it means to ‘go Dutch’?

· Is it usual for people in your country to ‘go Dutch’ if you go out together?

· Do older girls/boys have a problem dating younger girls/boys? Do younger girls/boys have a problem dating older girls/boys?

· Do you believe in love at first sight?Do you think some people know that they will fall in love with someone the first time they meet?

· Do you know what a ‘blind date’ is?

· Have you ever been on a blind date? Did you ever arrange a blind date?

LISTENING ACTIVITES:

See Randall’s ESL Cyber Listening Lab http://www.esl-lab.com/

Meeting Singles: http://www.esl-lab.com/invite/inviterd1.htm

USEFUL EXPRESSIONS:

See Longman Essential Activator (Pearson Longman) OR Communicating on Campus by Amy Hemmert and Ged O’Connell (Alta)

Useful Words

crush

hottie, hearthrob, cutie

cutie, babe, honey

to have a crush on someone

Useful Phrases

You’re simply beautiful.

You’re just adorable.

You’re the most beautiful girl under the sun.

I have butterflies in my tummy.

I’m head over heels in love.

Babe, you’re my number one.

You’ve got me hooked.

I’m totally nuts about you.

I’m absolutely crazy about you.

I’ve a major crush on you.

I think we are made for each other.

I can’t resist your charms.

You keep me awake at nights.

My heart is in your hands.

I’m under your spell.

I will always love you.

VOCABULARY:

ee Longman Dictionary of English Online http://www.ldoceonline.com and http://www.learnersdictionary.com/

See Oxford Collocations: Dictionary for Students of English

Word	Meaning	Examples	Picture
mar‧riage Noun [uncountable and countable]	1 the relationship between two people who are married, or the state of being marriedCOLLOCATIONS	COLLOCATIONS *happy/unhappy marriage mixed marriage* (=between people of different races or religions) *arranged marriage* (=your parents choose the person who you marry) *loveless marriage a marriage breaks down* (=it ends because of disagreements) *the breakdown/break-up of your marriage* (=the end of your marriage) *sex before marriage/outside marriage be born outside marriage* (=be born when your parents are not married) *propose marriage* formal (=ask someone to marry you) *consummate a marriage* (=make your marriage complete by having sex) *annul a marriage* formal (=a court or church leader officially ends a marriage) She has three daughters from a previous marriage. One in three marriages ends in divorce.
Writing Practice:
Word	Meaning	Examples	Picture
mar‧ry Verb past tense and past participle married, present participle marrying, third person singular marries [intransitive and transitive]	1 if you marry someone, you become their husband or wife [↪ married]:	He married Bea in 1925. I’m going to ask her to marry me on St Valentine’s Day. She married young (=at a young age). People in higher social classes are more likely to marry late (=when they are older than is usual). Sophia had, in a sense, married beneath her (=married someone of a lower social class than her). ! In spoken English, get married is more common than marry.
Writing Practice:
Word	Meaning	Examples	Picture
mar‧ried Adjective	1 having a husband or a wife:	Are you married or single? They’ve been married for eight years. Married men earn 70 percent more than single men. *married to* Nicole is married to my brother. We’re getting married (=marrying) next month. *married couple/man/woman* *a happily married man* When she first came to London, she was newly married and out of work. So, how do you like married life? ! Do not say ‘be married with’ someone or ‘get married with’ someone. Say be married to someone or get married to someone.
Writing Practice:

IDIOMS:

See In the Know: Understanding and Using Idioms by Cindy Leaney (Cambridge Press)

See Cambridge Dictionary of American Idioms (Cambridge Press)

tie the knot

pop the question

OTHER RESOURCES/IDEAS:

See The ESL Miscellany: A Treasury of Cultural and Linguistic Information (Pro Lingua Press)

http://ctleslpeertutor.project.mnscu.edu/index.asp?Type=B_BASIC&SEC={F25FF5CA-EE8C-43D6-AF61-928CE0B2FBB6}

Level III:

VISUAL RESOURCES:

See the Visual Merriam Webster Dictionary OR The Visual Dictionary Online http://visual.merriam-webster.com/

QUESTIONS:

http://www.eslpartyland.com/students/nov/pickup.htm

· Do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend?

Where did you meet your him/her?
What does he/she look like?

· Do you know anyone who has had an arranged marriage?

· Do you know someone who has gotten a divorce?

· Do you know the difference between love and like?

Can you still love your partner and not like him/her?

· Do you think a boy should pay for everything on a date?

· Do you think arranged marriages are a good idea? Why or why not?

· Do you think fairy tales influence our choice of a partner?

· Do you think getting married means giving up freedom?

· Do you think if you get married that you will change?

· Do you think it is better to be single or to be married?

· Do you think it is good to get married?

· Do you think it is okay for a couple to live together before getting married? Why or Why not?

· Do you think it is okay to marry someone of a different race?

· Do you think it is okay to marry someone with a different religion?

· Do you think it’s OK for a man to have two wives?

· Do you think it’s OK for a wife to have two husbands?

· Do you think it’s okay for a man to have a mistress?

· Do you think it’s okay for a man to hit his wife?

· Do you think love is necessary to have a good marriage?

· Do you think marriage is necessary?

· Do you think marriages based on love are more successful than arranged marriages?

· Do you think marriage is very stressful for women? How about for men?

· Do you think people change after getting married?

· Do you think religion influences marriage? If so, in what ways?

· Do you think that all adults should be married?

· Do you think that you can you find eternal love through the Internet?

LISTENING ACTIVITES:

See Randall’s ESL Cyber Listening Lab http://www.esl-lab.com/

Haven’t we met before? http://www.esl-lab.com/small/smallrd1.htm

USEFUL EXPRESSIONS:

See Longman Essential Activator (Pearson Longman) OR Communicating on Campus by Amy Hemmert and Ged O’Connell (Alta)

Pick-up Line (noun)

A sentence or question used to start a conversation (or keep one going). Most often used at bars or parties with members of the opposite sex.

Here are some examples of common pick-up lines:

What do you do?
Do you come here often?
I really like your ______ (eyes, necklace, shoes).

VOCABULARY:

See Longman Dictionary of English Online http://www.ldoceonline.com and http://www.learnersdictionary.com/

See Oxford Collocations: Dictionary for Students of English

Word	Meaning	Examples	Picture
date Noun [countable]	a) an occasion when you go out with someone that you like in a romantic way	*date with* I’ve got a date with Andrea tomorrow night. I felt like a teenager going out on a first date. ➔ blind date b) American English someone that you have a date with *somebody’s date* Can I bring my date to the party?
Writing Practice:
Word	Meaning	Examples	Picture
Relationship Noun [countable]	a situation in which two people spend time together or live together, and have romantic or sexual feelings for each other:	He’s never had a sexual relationship before. *relationship with* She doesn’t really want a relationship with me. *in a relationship* Are you in a relationship right now?
Writing Practice:
Word	Meaning	Examples	Picture
af‧fair Noun [countable]	a secret sexual relationship between two people, when at least one of them is married to someone else [= love affair]	*affair with* He had an affair with his boss that lasted six years.
Writing Practice:

IDIOMS:

See In the Know: Understanding and Using Idioms by Cindy Leaney (Cambridge Press)

See Cambridge Dictionary of American Idioms (Cambridge Press)

http://www.learning-with-ease.net/LangofLoveMatch.pdf

Here is a fun exercise matching exercise with idioms

OTHER RESOURCES/IDEAS:

See The ESL Miscellany: A Treasury of Cultural and Linguistic Information (Pro Lingua Press)

http://ctleslpeertutor.project.mnscu.edu/index.asp?Type=B_BASIC&SEC={F25FF5CA-EE8C-43D6-AF61-928CE0B2FBB6}

Level IV:

VISUAL RESOURCES:

See the Visual Merriam Webster Dictionary OR The Visual Dictionary Online http://visual.merriam-webster.com/

QUESTIONS:

Pick Up Lines and Put Downs

· How old were you when you had your first boyfriend or girlfriend?

· How old were you when you went on your first date?

Where did you go?
What did you do?
Who did you go with?

· How old were your parents when they got married?

· If your husband or wife has an affair what would you do?

· If your parents did not approve of a person you loved and wanted to marry, would that be a difficult situation for you? Why or why not?

· Is going out on dates important for you?

· Is there a such thing as a perfect relationship for you?

· If you could go out with anyone, who would it be?

· If you are a man, and a woman asks you for a date, do you feel you should pay, or that the woman should pay?

· If you had to marry either a poor man whom you really loved, or a rich man whom you did not love, which would you choose?

· If you had to choose to live with someone who truly loves you but you don’t love him back or to live alone for a rest of your life loving someone that doesn’t love you who would you choose?

· What advice would you give to someone whose partner hates their best friend?

· What age do you think is best for getting married?

· What are some dating and marriage customs in your country?

· What are some of the main reasons people get divorced?

· What are some popular places to go on a date?

· What are some qualities that you think are important in a spouse or partner?

· What characteristics do you look for in a girlfriend or boyfriend?

· What do you consider cheating in a dating relationship?

· What do you like to talk about when on a date?

· What do you look for in a girlfriend or a boyfriend?

· What do you think most people talk about when dating?

· What do you think of people who get divorced? Would you ever consider getting divorced?

· What do you think of same-sex marriages?

· What do you think of single mothers?

LISTENING ACTIVITES:

See Randall’s ESL Cyber Listening Lab http://www.esl-lab.com/

Dating Woes: http://www.esl-lab.com/trouble/troublerd1.htm

USEFUL EXPRESSIONS:

See Longman Essential Activator (Pearson Longman) OR Communicating on Campus by Amy Hemmert and Ged O’Connell (Alta)

A pick up line is something someone says in the hope of forming an acquaintance with someone else, usually in anticipation of sexual relations.

A put down is something you say that’s disparaging, belittling, or snubbing. The French have a phrase for it – l’Esprit d’escalier – ‘the spirit that passes on the staircase’.

Here are some of the best put downs to some common pick up lines:-

He – Can I buy you a drink?
She – Actually I’d rather have the money.

He – Hi. Didn’t we go on a date once? Or was it twice?
She – Must’ve been once. I never make the same mistake twice.

He – How did you get to be so beautiful?
She – I must have been given your share.

He – Your face must turn a few heads.
She – And your face must turn a few stomachs.

He – Go on, don’t be shy. Ask me out.
She – Okay, get out.

He – What would you say if I asked you to marry me?
She – Nothing. I can’t talk and laugh at the same time.

He – Can I have your name?
She – Why? Don’t you already have one?

He – Hey baby, what’s your sign?
She – Do not enter.

He – If I could see you naked, I’d die happy.
She – If I saw you naked, I’d probably die laughing.

He – Where have you been all my life?
She – Where I’ll be the rest of your life – in your wildest dreams.

http://www.fun-with-english.co.uk/2007/08/pick-up-lines-and-put-downs.html

VOCABULARY:

See Longman Dictionary of English Online http://www.ldoceonline.com and http://www.learnersdictionary.com/

See Oxford Collocations: Dictionary for Students of English

Word	Meaning	Examples	Picture
Flirt Verb [intransitive]	to behave towards someone in a way that shows that you are sexually attracted to them, although you do not really want a relationship with them	*flirt with* She accused him of flirting with other women. She was flirting outrageously (=a lot) with some of the managers.
Writing Practice:
Word	Meaning	Examples	Picture
go out with	=to date	Is he still going out with Sarah?
Writing Practice:
Word	Meaning	Examples	Picture
dump	informal to end a relationship with someone:	Vicky dumped Neil yesterday.
Writing Practice:

IDIOMS:

See In the Know: Understanding and Using Idioms by Cindy Leaney (Cambridge Press)

See Cambridge Dictionary of American Idioms (Cambridge Press)

http://www.autoenglish.org/id-friends.pdf

Here is a fun matching exercise with idioms:

OTHER RESOURCES/IDEAS:

See The ESL Miscellany: A Treasury of Cultural and Linguistic Information (Pro Lingua Press)

http://ctleslpeertutor.project.mnscu.edu/index.asp?Type=B_BASIC&SEC={F25FF5CA-EE8C-43D6-AF61-928CE0B2FBB6}

Play “The Dating Game”! This might be a fun activity if you have a male/female pair of students or can work with another tutor and a pair of students.

http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/848095/esl_group_activity_the_dating_game_.html

This site has links that might be fun to go through:

http://www.michellehenry.fr/wedding.htm

Level II:

VISUAL RESOURCES:

See the Oxford Picture Dictionary

QUESTIONS:

· At what age do you want to get married? At what age did you get married?

· Describe a perfect date.

· Describe the appearance of the person you would like to date?

· Describe the character of the person you would like to date?

· Do women usually work after getting married in your country?

· Do you “go Dutch” when dating?

· Do you know what it means to ‘go Dutch’?

· Is it usual for people in your country to ‘go Dutch’ if you go out together?

· Do older girls/boys have a problem dating younger girls/boys? Do younger girls/boys have a problem dating older girls/boys?

· Do you believe in love at first sight?Do you think some people know that they will fall in love with someone the first time they meet?

· Do you know what a ‘blind date’ is?

· Have you ever been on a blind date? Did you ever arrange a blind date?

LISTENING ACTIVITES:

See Randall’s ESL Cyber Listening Lab http://www.esl-lab.com/

Meeting Singles: http://www.esl-lab.com/invite/inviterd1.htm

USEFUL EXPRESSIONS:

See Longman Essential Activator (Pearson Longman) OR Communicating on Campus by Amy Hemmert and Ged O’Connell (Alta)

Useful Words

crush

hottie, hearthrob, cutie

cutie, babe, honey

to have a crush on someone

Useful Phrases

You’re simply beautiful.

You’re just adorable.

You’re the most beautiful girl under the sun.

I have butterflies in my tummy.

I’m head over heels in love.

Babe, you’re my number one.

You’ve got me hooked.

I’m totally nuts about you.

I’m absolutely crazy about you.

I’ve a major crush on you.

I think we are made for each other.

I can’t resist your charms.

You keep me awake at nights.

My heart is in your hands.

I’m under your spell.

I will always love you.

VOCABULARY:

ee Longman Dictionary of English Online http://www.ldoceonline.com and http://www.learnersdictionary.com/

See Oxford Collocations: Dictionary for Students of English

Word	Meaning	Examples	Picture
mar‧riage Noun [uncountable and countable]	1 the relationship between two people who are married, or the state of being marriedCOLLOCATIONS	COLLOCATIONS *happy/unhappy marriage mixed marriage* (=between people of different races or religions) *arranged marriage* (=your parents choose the person who you marry) *loveless marriage a marriage breaks down* (=it ends because of disagreements) *the breakdown/break-up of your marriage* (=the end of your marriage) *sex before marriage/outside marriage be born outside marriage* (=be born when your parents are not married) *propose marriage* formal (=ask someone to marry you) *consummate a marriage* (=make your marriage complete by having sex) *annul a marriage* formal (=a court or church leader officially ends a marriage) She has three daughters from a previous marriage. One in three marriages ends in divorce.
Writing Practice:
Word	Meaning	Examples	Picture
mar‧ry Verb past tense and past participle married, present participle marrying, third person singular marries [intransitive and transitive]	1 if you marry someone, you become their husband or wife [↪ married]:	He married Bea in 1925. I’m going to ask her to marry me on St Valentine’s Day. She married young (=at a young age). People in higher social classes are more likely to marry late (=when they are older than is usual). Sophia had, in a sense, married beneath her (=married someone of a lower social class than her). ! In spoken English, get married is more common than marry.
Writing Practice:
Word	Meaning	Examples	Picture
mar‧ried Adjective	1 having a husband or a wife:	Are you married or single? They’ve been married for eight years. Married men earn 70 percent more than single men. *married to* Nicole is married to my brother. We’re getting married (=marrying) next month. *married couple/man/woman* *a happily married man* When she first came to London, she was newly married and out of work. So, how do you like married life? ! Do not say ‘be married with’ someone or ‘get married with’ someone. Say be married to someone or get married to someone.
Writing Practice:

IDIOMS:

See In the Know: Understanding and Using Idioms by Cindy Leaney (Cambridge Press)

See Cambridge Dictionary of American Idioms (Cambridge Press)

tie the knot

pop the question

OTHER RESOURCES/IDEAS:

See The ESL Miscellany: A Treasury of Cultural and Linguistic Information (Pro Lingua Press)

http://ctleslpeertutor.project.mnscu.edu/index.asp?Type=B_BASIC&SEC={F25FF5CA-EE8C-43D6-AF61-928CE0B2FBB6}

Level III:

VISUAL RESOURCES:

See the Visual Merriam Webster Dictionary OR The Visual Dictionary Online http://visual.merriam-webster.com/

QUESTIONS:

http://www.eslpartyland.com/students/nov/pickup.htm

· Do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend?

Where did you meet your him/her?
What does he/she look like?

· Do you know anyone who has had an arranged marriage?

· Do you know someone who has gotten a divorce?

· Do you know the difference between love and like?

Can you still love your partner and not like him/her?

· Do you think a boy should pay for everything on a date?

· Do you think arranged marriages are a good idea? Why or why not?

· Do you think fairy tales influence our choice of a partner?

· Do you think getting married means giving up freedom?

· Do you think if you get married that you will change?

· Do you think it is better to be single or to be married?

· Do you think it is good to get married?

· Do you think it is okay for a couple to live together before getting married? Why or Why not?

· Do you think it is okay to marry someone of a different race?

· Do you think it is okay to marry someone with a different religion?

· Do you think it’s OK for a man to have two wives?

· Do you think it’s OK for a wife to have two husbands?

· Do you think it’s okay for a man to have a mistress?

· Do you think it’s okay for a man to hit his wife?

· Do you think love is necessary to have a good marriage?

· Do you think marriage is necessary?

· Do you think marriages based on love are more successful than arranged marriages?

· Do you think marriage is very stressful for women? How about for men?

· Do you think people change after getting married?

· Do you think religion influences marriage? If so, in what ways?

· Do you think that all adults should be married?

· Do you think that you can you find eternal love through the Internet?

LISTENING ACTIVITES:

See Randall’s ESL Cyber Listening Lab http://www.esl-lab.com/

Haven’t we met before? http://www.esl-lab.com/small/smallrd1.htm

USEFUL EXPRESSIONS:

See Longman Essential Activator (Pearson Longman) OR Communicating on Campus by Amy Hemmert and Ged O’Connell (Alta)

Pick-up Line (noun)

A sentence or question used to start a conversation (or keep one going). Most often used at bars or parties with members of the opposite sex.

Here are some examples of common pick-up lines:

What do you do?
Do you come here often?
I really like your ______ (eyes, necklace, shoes).

VOCABULARY:

See Longman Dictionary of English Online http://www.ldoceonline.com and http://www.learnersdictionary.com/

See Oxford Collocations: Dictionary for Students of English

Word	Meaning	Examples	Picture
date Noun [countable]	a) an occasion when you go out with someone that you like in a romantic way	*date with* I’ve got a date with Andrea tomorrow night. I felt like a teenager going out on a first date. ➔ blind date b) American English someone that you have a date with *somebody’s date* Can I bring my date to the party?
Writing Practice:
Word	Meaning	Examples	Picture
Relationship Noun [countable]	a situation in which two people spend time together or live together, and have romantic or sexual feelings for each other:	He’s never had a sexual relationship before. *relationship with* She doesn’t really want a relationship with me. *in a relationship* Are you in a relationship right now?
Writing Practice:
Word	Meaning	Examples	Picture
af‧fair Noun [countable]	a secret sexual relationship between two people, when at least one of them is married to someone else [= love affair]	*affair with* He had an affair with his boss that lasted six years.
Writing Practice:

IDIOMS:

See In the Know: Understanding and Using Idioms by Cindy Leaney (Cambridge Press)

See Cambridge Dictionary of American Idioms (Cambridge Press)

http://www.learning-with-ease.net/LangofLoveMatch.pdf

Here is a fun exercise matching exercise with idioms

OTHER RESOURCES/IDEAS:

See The ESL Miscellany: A Treasury of Cultural and Linguistic Information (Pro Lingua Press)

http://ctleslpeertutor.project.mnscu.edu/index.asp?Type=B_BASIC&SEC={F25FF5CA-EE8C-43D6-AF61-928CE0B2FBB6}

Level IV:

VISUAL RESOURCES:

See the Visual Merriam Webster Dictionary OR The Visual Dictionary Online http://visual.merriam-webster.com/

QUESTIONS:

Pick Up Lines and Put Downs

· How old were you when you had your first boyfriend or girlfriend?

· How old were you when you went on your first date?

Where did you go?
What did you do?
Who did you go with?

· How old were your parents when they got married?

· If your husband or wife has an affair what would you do?

· If your parents did not approve of a person you loved and wanted to marry, would that be a difficult situation for you? Why or why not?

· Is going out on dates important for you?

· Is there a such thing as a perfect relationship for you?

· If you could go out with anyone, who would it be?

· If you are a man, and a woman asks you for a date, do you feel you should pay, or that the woman should pay?

· If you had to marry either a poor man whom you really loved, or a rich man whom you did not love, which would you choose?

· If you had to choose to live with someone who truly loves you but you don’t love him back or to live alone for a rest of your life loving someone that doesn’t love you who would you choose?

· What advice would you give to someone whose partner hates their best friend?

· What age do you think is best for getting married?

· What are some dating and marriage customs in your country?

· What are some of the main reasons people get divorced?

· What are some popular places to go on a date?

· What are some qualities that you think are important in a spouse or partner?

· What characteristics do you look for in a girlfriend or boyfriend?

· What do you consider cheating in a dating relationship?

· What do you like to talk about when on a date?

· What do you look for in a girlfriend or a boyfriend?

· What do you think most people talk about when dating?

· What do you think of people who get divorced? Would you ever consider getting divorced?

· What do you think of same-sex marriages?

· What do you think of single mothers?

LISTENING ACTIVITES:

See Randall’s ESL Cyber Listening Lab http://www.esl-lab.com/

Dating Woes: http://www.esl-lab.com/trouble/troublerd1.htm

USEFUL EXPRESSIONS:

See Longman Essential Activator (Pearson Longman) OR Communicating on Campus by Amy Hemmert and Ged O’Connell (Alta)

A pick up line is something someone says in the hope of forming an acquaintance with someone else, usually in anticipation of sexual relations.

A put down is something you say that’s disparaging, belittling, or snubbing. The French have a phrase for it – l’Esprit d’escalier – ‘the spirit that passes on the staircase’.

Here are some of the best put downs to some common pick up lines:-

He – Can I buy you a drink?
She – Actually I’d rather have the money.

He – Hi. Didn’t we go on a date once? Or was it twice?
She – Must’ve been once. I never make the same mistake twice.

He – How did you get to be so beautiful?
She – I must have been given your share.

He – Your face must turn a few heads.
She – And your face must turn a few stomachs.

He – Go on, don’t be shy. Ask me out.
She – Okay, get out.

He – What would you say if I asked you to marry me?
She – Nothing. I can’t talk and laugh at the same time.

He – Can I have your name?
She – Why? Don’t you already have one?

He – Hey baby, what’s your sign?
She – Do not enter.

He – If I could see you naked, I’d die happy.
She – If I saw you naked, I’d probably die laughing.

He – Where have you been all my life?
She – Where I’ll be the rest of your life – in your wildest dreams.

http://www.fun-with-english.co.uk/2007/08/pick-up-lines-and-put-downs.html

VOCABULARY:

See Longman Dictionary of English Online http://www.ldoceonline.com and http://www.learnersdictionary.com/

See Oxford Collocations: Dictionary for Students of English

Word

Meaning

Examples

Picture

Flirt

Verb

[intransitive]

to behave towards someone in a way that shows that you are sexually attracted to them, although you do not really want a relationship with them

flirt with

She accused him of flirting with other women.

She was flirting outrageously (=a lot) with some of the managers.

Writing Practice:

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Level II:

VISUAL RESOURCES:

See the Oxford Picture Dictionary

QUESTIONS:

· At what age do you want to get married? At what age did you get married?

· Describe a perfect date.

· Describe the appearance of the person you would like to date?

· Describe the character of the person you would like to date?

· Do women usually work after getting married in your country?

· Do you “go Dutch” when dating?

· Do you know what it means to ‘go Dutch’?

· Is it usual for people in your country to ‘go Dutch’ if you go out together?

· Do older girls/boys have a problem dating younger girls/boys? Do younger girls/boys have a problem dating older girls/boys?

· Do you believe in love at first sight?Do you think some people know that they will fall in love with someone the first time they meet?

· Do you know what a ‘blind date’ is?

· Have you ever been on a blind date? Did you ever arrange a blind date?

LISTENING ACTIVITES:

See Randall’s ESL Cyber Listening Lab http://www.esl-lab.com/

Meeting Singles: http://www.esl-lab.com/invite/inviterd1.htm

USEFUL EXPRESSIONS:

See Longman Essential Activator (Pearson Longman) OR Communicating on Campus by Amy Hemmert and Ged O’Connell (Alta)

Useful Words

crush

hottie, hearthrob, cutie

cutie, babe, honey

to have a crush on someone

Useful Phrases

You’re simply beautiful.

You’re just adorable.

You’re the most beautiful girl under the sun.

I have butterflies in my tummy.

I’m head over heels in love.

Babe, you’re my number one.

You’ve got me hooked.

I’m totally nuts about you.

I’m absolutely crazy about you.

I’ve a major crush on you.

I think we are made for each other.

I can’t resist your charms.

You keep me awake at nights.

My heart is in your hands.

I’m under your spell.

I will always love you.

VOCABULARY:

ee Longman Dictionary of English Online http://www.ldoceonline.com and http://www.learnersdictionary.com/

See Oxford Collocations: Dictionary for Students of English

Word	Meaning	Examples	Picture
mar‧riage Noun [uncountable and countable]	1 the relationship between two people who are married, or the state of being marriedCOLLOCATIONS	COLLOCATIONS *happy/unhappy marriage mixed marriage* (=between people of different races or religions) *arranged marriage* (=your parents choose the person who you marry) *loveless marriage a marriage breaks down* (=it ends because of disagreements) *the breakdown/break-up of your marriage* (=the end of your marriage) *sex before marriage/outside marriage be born outside marriage* (=be born when your parents are not married) *propose marriage* formal (=ask someone to marry you) *consummate a marriage* (=make your marriage complete by having sex) *annul a marriage* formal (=a court or church leader officially ends a marriage) She has three daughters from a previous marriage. One in three marriages ends in divorce.
Writing Practice:
Word	Meaning	Examples	Picture
mar‧ry Verb past tense and past participle married, present participle marrying, third person singular marries [intransitive and transitive]	1 if you marry someone, you become their husband or wife [↪ married]:	He married Bea in 1925. I’m going to ask her to marry me on St Valentine’s Day. She married young (=at a young age). People in higher social classes are more likely to marry late (=when they are older than is usual). Sophia had, in a sense, married beneath her (=married someone of a lower social class than her). ! In spoken English, get married is more common than marry.
Writing Practice:
Word	Meaning	Examples	Picture
mar‧ried Adjective	1 having a husband or a wife:	Are you married or single? They’ve been married for eight years. Married men earn 70 percent more than single men. *married to* Nicole is married to my brother. We’re getting married (=marrying) next month. *married couple/man/woman* *a happily married man* When she first came to London, she was newly married and out of work. So, how do you like married life? ! Do not say ‘be married with’ someone or ‘get married with’ someone. Say be married to someone or get married to someone.
Writing Practice:

IDIOMS:

See In the Know: Understanding and Using Idioms by Cindy Leaney (Cambridge Press)

See Cambridge Dictionary of American Idioms (Cambridge Press)

tie the knot

pop the question

OTHER RESOURCES/IDEAS:

See The ESL Miscellany: A Treasury of Cultural and Linguistic Information (Pro Lingua Press)

http://ctleslpeertutor.project.mnscu.edu/index.asp?Type=B_BASIC&SEC={F25FF5CA-EE8C-43D6-AF61-928CE0B2FBB6}

Level III:

VISUAL RESOURCES:

See the Visual Merriam Webster Dictionary OR The Visual Dictionary Online http://visual.merriam-webster.com/

QUESTIONS:

http://www.eslpartyland.com/students/nov/pickup.htm

· Do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend?

Where did you meet your him/her?
What does he/she look like?

· Do you know anyone who has had an arranged marriage?

· Do you know someone who has gotten a divorce?

· Do you know the difference between love and like?

Can you still love your partner and not like him/her?

· Do you think a boy should pay for everything on a date?

· Do you think arranged marriages are a good idea? Why or why not?

· Do you think fairy tales influence our choice of a partner?

· Do you think getting married means giving up freedom?

· Do you think if you get married that you will change?

· Do you think it is better to be single or to be married?

· Do you think it is good to get married?

· Do you think it is okay for a couple to live together before getting married? Why or Why not?

· Do you think it is okay to marry someone of a different race?

· Do you think it is okay to marry someone with a different religion?

· Do you think it’s OK for a man to have two wives?

· Do you think it’s OK for a wife to have two husbands?

· Do you think it’s okay for a man to have a mistress?

· Do you think it’s okay for a man to hit his wife?

· Do you think love is necessary to have a good marriage?

· Do you think marriage is necessary?

· Do you think marriages based on love are more successful than arranged marriages?

· Do you think marriage is very stressful for women? How about for men?

· Do you think people change after getting married?

· Do you think religion influences marriage? If so, in what ways?

· Do you think that all adults should be married?

· Do you think that you can you find eternal love through the Internet?

LISTENING ACTIVITES:

See Randall’s ESL Cyber Listening Lab http://www.esl-lab.com/

Haven’t we met before? http://www.esl-lab.com/small/smallrd1.htm

USEFUL EXPRESSIONS:

See Longman Essential Activator (Pearson Longman) OR Communicating on Campus by Amy Hemmert and Ged O’Connell (Alta)

Pick-up Line (noun)

A sentence or question used to start a conversation (or keep one going). Most often used at bars or parties with members of the opposite sex.

Here are some examples of common pick-up lines:

What do you do?
Do you come here often?
I really like your ______ (eyes, necklace, shoes).

VOCABULARY:

See Longman Dictionary of English Online http://www.ldoceonline.com and http://www.learnersdictionary.com/

See Oxford Collocations: Dictionary for Students of English

Word	Meaning	Examples	Picture
date Noun [countable]	a) an occasion when you go out with someone that you like in a romantic way	*date with* I’ve got a date with Andrea tomorrow night. I felt like a teenager going out on a first date. ➔ blind date b) American English someone that you have a date with *somebody’s date* Can I bring my date to the party?
Writing Practice:
Word	Meaning	Examples	Picture
Relationship Noun [countable]	a situation in which two people spend time together or live together, and have romantic or sexual feelings for each other:	He’s never had a sexual relationship before. *relationship with* She doesn’t really want a relationship with me. *in a relationship* Are you in a relationship right now?
Writing Practice:
Word	Meaning	Examples	Picture
af‧fair Noun [countable]	a secret sexual relationship between two people, when at least one of them is married to someone else [= love affair]	*affair with* He had an affair with his boss that lasted six years.
Writing Practice:

IDIOMS:

See In the Know: Understanding and Using Idioms by Cindy Leaney (Cambridge Press)

See Cambridge Dictionary of American Idioms (Cambridge Press)

http://www.learning-with-ease.net/LangofLoveMatch.pdf

Here is a fun exercise matching exercise with idioms

OTHER RESOURCES/IDEAS:

See The ESL Miscellany: A Treasury of Cultural and Linguistic Information (Pro Lingua Press)

http://ctleslpeertutor.project.mnscu.edu/index.asp?Type=B_BASIC&SEC={F25FF5CA-EE8C-43D6-AF61-928CE0B2FBB6}

Level IV:

VISUAL RESOURCES:

See the Visual Merriam Webster Dictionary OR The Visual Dictionary Online http://visual.merriam-webster.com/

QUESTIONS:

Pick Up Lines and Put Downs

· How old were you when you had your first boyfriend or girlfriend?

· How old were you when you went on your first date?

Where did you go?
What did you do?
Who did you go with?

· How old were your parents when they got married?

· If your husband or wife has an affair what would you do?

· If your parents did not approve of a person you loved and wanted to marry, would that be a difficult situation for you? Why or why not?

· Is going out on dates important for you?

· Is there a such thing as a perfect relationship for you?

· If you could go out with anyone, who would it be?

· If you are a man, and a woman asks you for a date, do you feel you should pay, or that the woman should pay?

· If you had to marry either a poor man whom you really loved, or a rich man whom you did not love, which would you choose?

· If you had to choose to live with someone who truly loves you but you don’t love him back or to live alone for a rest of your life loving someone that doesn’t love you who would you choose?

· What advice would you give to someone whose partner hates their best friend?

· What age do you think is best for getting married?

· What are some dating and marriage customs in your country?

· What are some of the main reasons people get divorced?

· What are some popular places to go on a date?

· What are some qualities that you think are important in a spouse or partner?

· What characteristics do you look for in a girlfriend or boyfriend?

· What do you consider cheating in a dating relationship?

· What do you like to talk about when on a date?

· What do you look for in a girlfriend or a boyfriend?

· What do you think most people talk about when dating?

· What do you think of people who get divorced? Would you ever consider getting divorced?

· What do you think of same-sex marriages?

· What do you think of single mothers?

LISTENING ACTIVITES:

See Randall’s ESL Cyber Listening Lab http://www.esl-lab.com/

Dating Woes: http://www.esl-lab.com/trouble/troublerd1.htm

USEFUL EXPRESSIONS:

See Longman Essential Activator (Pearson Longman) OR Communicating on Campus by Amy Hemmert and Ged O’Connell (Alta)

A pick up line is something someone says in the hope of forming an acquaintance with someone else, usually in anticipation of sexual relations.

A put down is something you say that’s disparaging, belittling, or snubbing. The French have a phrase for it – l’Esprit d’escalier – ‘the spirit that passes on the staircase’.

Here are some of the best put downs to some common pick up lines:-

He – Can I buy you a drink?
She – Actually I’d rather have the money.

He – Hi. Didn’t we go on a date once? Or was it twice?
She – Must’ve been once. I never make the same mistake twice.

He – How did you get to be so beautiful?
She – I must have been given your share.

He – Your face must turn a few heads.
She – And your face must turn a few stomachs.

He – Go on, don’t be shy. Ask me out.
She – Okay, get out.

He – What would you say if I asked you to marry me?
She – Nothing. I can’t talk and laugh at the same time.

He – Can I have your name?
She – Why? Don’t you already have one?

He – Hey baby, what’s your sign?
She – Do not enter.

He – If I could see you naked, I’d die happy.
She – If I saw you naked, I’d probably die laughing.

He – Where have you been all my life?
She – Where I’ll be the rest of your life – in your wildest dreams.

http://www.fun-with-english.co.uk/2007/08/pick-up-lines-and-put-downs.html

VOCABULARY:

See Longman Dictionary of English Online http://www.ldoceonline.com and http://www.learnersdictionary.com/

See Oxford Collocations: Dictionary for Students of English

Word	Meaning	Examples	Picture
Flirt Verb [intransitive]	to behave towards someone in a way that shows that you are sexually attracted to them, although you do not really want a relationship with them	*flirt with* She accused him of flirting with other women. She was flirting outrageously (=a lot) with some of the managers.
Writing Practice:
Word	Meaning	Examples	Picture
go out with	=to date	Is he still going out with Sarah?
Writing Practice:
Word	Meaning	Examples	Picture
dump	informal to end a relationship with someone:	Vicky dumped Neil yesterday.
Writing Practice:

IDIOMS:

See In the Know: Understanding and Using Idioms by Cindy Leaney (Cambridge Press)

See Cambridge Dictionary of American Idioms (Cambridge Press)

http://www.autoenglish.org/id-friends.pdf

Here is a fun matching exercise with idioms:

OTHER RESOURCES/IDEAS:

See The ESL Miscellany: A Treasury of Cultural and Linguistic Information (Pro Lingua Press)

http://ctleslpeertutor.project.mnscu.edu/index.asp?Type=B_BASIC&SEC={F25FF5CA-EE8C-43D6-AF61-928CE0B2FBB6}

Play “The Dating Game”! This might be a fun activity if you have a male/female pair of students or can work with another tutor and a pair of students.

http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/848095/esl_group_activity_the_dating_game_.html

This site has links that might be fun to go through:

http://www.michellehenry.fr/wedding.htm

Meaning

Examples

Picture

go out with

=to date

Is he still going out with Sarah?

Writing Practice:

Word

Meaning

Examples

Picture

dump

informal

to end a relationship with someone:

Vicky dumped Neil yesterday.

Writing Practice:

IDIOMS:

See In the Know: Understanding and Using Idioms by Cindy Leaney (Cambridge Press)

See Cambridge Dictionary of American Idioms (Cambridge Press)

http://www.autoenglish.org/id-friends.pdf

Here is a fun matching exercise with idioms:

OTHER RESOURCES/IDEAS:

See The ESL Miscellany: A Treasury of Cultural and Linguistic Information (Pro Lingua Press)